|Love, Life &
A-List Miami Couple Opens Up
By Troy Maillis
all of the events surrounding gays in the media over this past
year, our society may be very well in the midst of a changing of
the guard. For years, the thought of two men holding hands
in public was taboo and actually risky. Over time,
however, there have been several champions for the cause to not
only change the way society thinks about gay relationships, but
they way other gays feel about gay relationships. A-List
Miami couple, Daniel Miagany, model, and
Glenn Douglas Packard,
choreographer and actor, recently celebrated two years together.
It may not seem like a long time, but the connection is
undeniable. The couple sat down to give their individual
takes on their relationship and society's changing views on
you meet and how long have you been together? What initially
attracted you to one another?
G: We met at
Beach and started out
as great friends. I then started getting strong feelings for
Daniel. He was smokin' hot and made me laugh so much. So one
night asked him if I could kiss him, wow what a kiss itís lasted
2 years now.
D: We met through a mutual friend at
Score on a slow Monday night. He was on a date and I had just
moved here from LA so I was trying to make friends but we kicked
it off right away and established a friendship. Shortly I
realized he wanted to be more than friends because he'd
coincidentally show up at the same places me and my friend were.
I was instantly attracted to his smile and confidence. I told
him when we met that he walks with such confidence which is
really hot to me.
What do you think is the most
effective way to meet a quality guy in the gay world? Do
you think there are advantages to meeting guys for dating online
or does it just lead to disaster from the beginning?
G: For me, I was always meeting
people in the work field. Iím a director/choreographer and in
the entertainment business, so I am always dating other
entertainers. Even though I met Daniel at a bar, I'm not sure
thatís the best place to meet the man of your dreams. Now that I
think about it, I don't know if I have the answer to where to
meet that quality guy. I know the Internet sites a lot of my
friends are on and youíre not going to find that dream guy to
help complete you, but it will take care of your sexual needs
and thatís about all.
D: There's no right or wrong way to
meet a guy. Years ago no one would admit to meeting online but
now itís a norm and many successful relationships have resulted
from it. If I knew of an effective way I'd be rich but I can
assure you itís not where you meet the person but your actions
and how treat the relationship. I finally grew up when I met
Glenn and I changed for the better. I wasn't looking for a
relationship so my expectations weren't high.
In many gay relationships the couples
have an ďopenĒ relationship or ďplayĒ together. Do
you have that type of relationship and do you think gay men can
have a monogamous relationship without losing interest?
G: Iím that "Sex is best when itís ONE
on ONEĒ kind of guy. Itís funny because we have become friends
with a lot of gay men that have been in relationships for 13-19
years, and talking to them we find out that they have guests in
the bedroom. Recently, Daniel & I started asking each other if
that us down the road and would we open our bedroom to other
men. Right now my heart tells me no, but something else down
below might tell me something different. Time will tell.
D: Yea, we've been in heated
discussions over this one and not because Glenn or I want an
open relationship, but more with outside people. It's such a
gay clichť, unfortunately. I've noticed many "LTRs" are open,
which is fine with me, but we haven't gotten their and I hope we
don't. What's the point of committing to someone then going
around sleeping with the rest of the town?You can't have your
cake and eat it too.
When you met, how did the issue of who
is the top and who is the bottom come up? Was
it right at the beginning or did you feel each other out?
G: Lots of sword playing [lol]. No, we
were friends first, so we knew where to go and even explore some new territories!
D: We started out as friends so we
got to know each other before that whole topic. Letís just say
we've both made accommodations to please each other.
What do you like most about each other and what keeps the
fire burning at this point? Is it the emotional connection, the
sex, the physical attraction, or is everything equal?
G: Well I have always wanted a mature
relationship and someone who knows who they are, what they want
and will love me back as much I love them. For me itís more of
trust. It's knowing when I'm away or working, I can give a
hundred percent into that project where I am and not be
concerned with whatís going on at the home front. It's how much
he makes me laugh and how unique I think he is. I found a true
individual and I feel like the luckiest gay man in the world. I
like that he has brought music into my life again, he introduced
me to wine, he texts and talks to my family, he loves to dress
up and be silly, he is kind to everyone around him, we love
laying in the couch together watching scary movies, he looks
great in his underwear, he is into holidays, he can draw
amazingly well. When I'm away he texts me everyday "good night"
or "good morning" or "I love you."
D: Glenn is what keeps me together
and, as cheesy as it sounds, he make me a better person. He is
hands down the nicest guy I've been with. He is very generous
with his emotions and always makes me smile. He is never in a
bad mood and loves life and it's contagious. I can see how
before me he'd only been in 3+ year relationships. He has
values, morals and is also very honest. He's a catch and I'd be
a fool to let him go.
A lot has happened in the gay
community this year in terms of moving forward in a more
positive and equal direction (DADT, gay adoption, gay
marriage). What are
you hoping for in the future? Do
you foresee getting married and having kids?
G: You know I want to address
something in Miami:
New York has Chelsea, LA has WeHo, San Fran
has Castro, Fort Lauderdale has Wilton Manors; but in Miami, we
are one of the gayest places on the planet but we have no
designated area? We kind of exploded everywhere in
Miami, but I feel we
need to have that area were it's MEGA GAY [lol]. I have a
positive outlook on our community and feel things are going in
the right direction, just like womenís rights, gender equality,
and all the civil rights movements in the past. The LGBT rights
and gay liberation will get better. Now is the time for every
LGBT to stand up proud and have a voice! I for sure
am going to lead by example and try to make a difference while
Iím here. Marriage and kids are on the top of my list. Sign me
D: We've definitely talked about
having kids by means of a surrogate or adoption. Again, itís
only been two years but we're not getting any younger and Glenn
wants to be a cool, young dad. I hope one day we are all
accepted as equal. There are plenty of good examples out there
of happy gay couples with children. I wish
Florida had more of a
community and information regarding these events.
With the string of recent bullying and
suicides, what do you think that can be done in the future? Do
you think your relationship is a good example to kids and
society that gay men can have healthy, functional relationships?
G. Get me out there to every school.
I will let these kids know life is great and it gets better. I
was there at one time. I just put up my ďIt Gets BetterĒ video
on YouTube. After I watched it I got a bit emotional because as
I watched myself speaking I went back to being that young boy
that was getting bullying at school and tried to commit suicide.
To think I may have gone through with it and not have seen where
my destiny would have taken me. To think I was so scared,
alone, and sad to now being so extremely happy and cherish my
life so much. I feel so lucky and know Iím in a position where
I can help the younger generation feel a bit safer and not so
alone by the media and internet. I'm going to make sure they
know life is what you make it, so get out there and enjoy your
D: Yes, I hope we are a good example to
teens out there. Most of Glenn's fan base are in their teenage
years and he feels he has a responsibility to be a good role
model. We take pride in many things and one is that we have fun
with each other and people see that. As far as bullying, itís a
damn shame this is happening. I remember how difficult it was
when I was a kid but I stuck through it. Now when I go out and
see a mass of gay people, I'm like, ďYES! We all stuck
through!Ē We can't do anything other than inform the kids that
life does get better and there are hotlines and organizations
such as The Trevor Project that are there to support you. I
also hope schools start waking up and do disciplinary actions to
those who are bullying.